The Femme Tomboy

Not too long ago my girlfriend wrote what being a tomboy femme meant to her. You can find that post on her blog: Riot Grrl (http://www.enjoylifejw.blogspot.com).



I realized I never quite explained what being a femme tomboy meant to me. Exactly what do I mean when I tell people I am a femme tomboy?



Here goes....



* I appreciate femininity in a woman. I am not attracted to butch type woman (very manly). I prefer medium length/long hair. I like a woman who isn't afraid of dresses/heels (like I am), makeup and smelling good. A woman who also doesn't mind "getting her hands dirty" and carry's her femininity over to when she is in casual clothes. I am NOT talking "girly/girl" --- I mean a woman who is feminine yet strong.



* I will never wear a dress, heels, makeup or nylons because I truly would feel like I was in drag, however, I don't mind low-cut sweaters/blouses, pretty colors, cover-up/blush, perfume/cologne, and wearing my hair a length that is "just feminine enough".



* I only shop for men's clothing. Strike that. GAY men's clothing. The clothes I wear are truly gender neutral. I buy pink MEN's sweater's. Pretty blue MEN shirts. If a (feminine) gay man would like it --- chances are, so would I. I do shop for pants/jeans in the woman's dept and have several woman's sneakers. I am VERY careful NOT to buy "butchy" type clothes. I like being a woman. I am VERY womanly. I am just --- a tomboy! ;)



* I feel I was most likely a 1940's stay-at-home-wife-homemaker in another lifetime. I love to clean, bake, shop and decorate. I know NOTHING about plumbing, electrical stuff, car issues, carpentry and will run and scream if I see a bug.





* I would kill the bug that scares me if my girlfriend was afraid. That is when the BOY comes out in my TOM! ;)



* I don't like confrontation and am attracted to more of an aggressive type personality, however, I will protect and defend my partner until my last breath.



* Woman's lingerie makes me blush. I find it very sexy. It is something I could personally never wear but get weak in the knees when others do.



* I love having my partner lay her head on my shoulder or rest her head on my lap.


* I love opening the door for my partner and feel shy/awkward when it's done for me, but appreciative.





* I love when my partner crosses her legs or sits on my lap as these are things I would never feel comfortable doing.


* I am very emotional and can cry/laugh at the drop of a hat. I have no problem expressing my emotions/feelings and am attracted to others who are able to do so as well.





* I love hanging out with my "straight girlfriends" who make me feel like the "gay guy best friend!"

 

* For bed I love wearing gym pants, sweatshirts, boxers and t's. I will never wear anything frilly, however, I try to match my clothes just in case there is an emergency and we need to leave the house right away.


* I try to match my undies to the shirt I am wearing.


* I take roughly an hour to get ready in the morning.

 

* I take roughly 15 minutes to get ready before bed.

 

* I love romance and get all giddy over sweet-little-things.






* I feel awkward giving flowers but don't mind giving them. Tulips are my favorite.






* I prefer grilling to cooking indoors.






* I love romantic comedies and dislike action/adventure.






* I find a woman who can fix a car, kill a bug, move and/or assemble furniture and take initiative extremely sexy! ;)






* I LOVE muscle cars and think a cross country road trip with my girlfriend and music blearing would be a dream come true.






* I compare myself more to men than woman --- unless she is Ellen Degeneres...lol. Damn that woman has some cool sneakers and ties! ;)






* I can appreciate a good looking man and have no problem gushing over men, however, I find it more difficult and disrespectful to my partner to do the same over a woman. With men it is an "admiration" -- a quality I would like for myself. With woman it would be just because I find them hot. Period.






* When my partner flirts with me I lose all sense of control and forget how to speak and find it almost impossible to make eye contact. It drives me wild ---- and I love it!






* I love a woman who takes care of herself. Emotionally and physically. I don't care what the person's weight is -- as long as they truly take an interest and care about themselves.






* I love a woman who can show her vulnerable side and make me feel needed.






* I love being flirted with by my partner.






* As much as I would like a smaller "chest", I must say, I am quite fond of my cleavage.






* I only wear what I consider to be "girly flannel" - lol.






* I love to flip a scarf. Nothing like a good scarf flip.






This pretty much sums everything up. Basically I am probably more girly on the inside then those woman who appear more feminine on the outside.






I have always been drawn to "softer type" guys as well. The whole "brawn" thing does nothing for me, so obviously it wouldn't in woman either. Make sense? :)


Yeah. I'm just a tomboy or as lyrics from my song "Straight Girls" goes: "I'm just a girl who likes a girl who wears a skirt."

;) ;)