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Saturday, November 2, 2013

Fall in New England is a such a beautiful thing!

Adios October...and what a send off! A weekend reviewing Mohonk Mountain House in New Paltz, NY! Jen and I were blessed with gorgeous fall weather which was perfect for exploring the beautiful hiking trails around the resort (by the way - Dirty Dancing was filmed here, Stephen King wrote 'The Shining' here and the movie 1408, also written by Stephen King, was based on a room at this hotel). 


Reed was Tom Brady! 

Angel was The Great Pumpkin! 

And, of course - I was a redneck, zombie killer! ;) 

Boo! ;) 

Jen was going to be a zombie but had a wicked bad headache so she was just her beautiful self! 

Life Lessons - Enduring Bullying, Homophobia, Social Phobia and Cruelty and Making it Through with a SMILE!

Wow, I came across this old post on Facebook and wanted to share with Femme Tomboy's followers: 

34 years of life has taught me....

January 22, 2011 at 10:18am
When I was a young child I was extremely outgoing. I was surrounded by love and support - always. Put me on a stage and I was ready to go. In grade school I had my first taste of cruelty. During grades 3-6 I was somewhat of a chubby girl, was developed before everyone else and even suffered "break outs" by age 11. I was made fun of at times and every time my spirit was crushed my family would build me back up and make me feel like the most beautiful, special little girl. In return I would go to school and share that with other kids who were being bullied or made fun of. I empathized with them. As I got closer to 6-8 grade my confidence sored again, by being kind, even to ignorance and cruelty, I developed a pretty good self image. Extra pounds, troubled skin and all. Did I mention I also had a huge gap between my front teeth?

By 7th grade I lost all my baby fat, without trying, and somehow became "the popular" kid. The good student - winning awards (yawn - who cares). What I remember most about grades 7-8 are my relationships. I made
my first (true) best friend, realized I was gay, looked up to teaches and knew, by age 13, that what truly mattered was the love you got and gave out. I was friends with everyone. I didn't care how different we were.

High School was 95% amazing. I was one of the few girls who never obsessed over weight, was fine being true to myself (I never drank, smoke, did drugs --- definitely not a follower). I didn't care if my friends dabbled in that stuff. After all, it seemed like I was the "abnormal" one for not desiring any of that "junk". No, I lost myself in music, art My school work, although good, was always second to the crushes I had and the love I developed for people. I loved my friends. I loved my family. I loved certain girls and I loved myself. All in healthy ways, of course. The word conceded would never be even close to me.

It wasn't until the end of senior year that I began being bullied. Boy, was I bullied. For being gay. For being a tomboy. For not being promiscuous, or drinking/doing drugs. I was given death threats. I was called ugly by numerous guys. I was pushed. Had homophobic comments left of my computer etc., ---- the bullies started to wear me down. So much so, I developed an anxiety disorder and avoided my own graduation ceremony for fear of being called a "dyke" as I walked down the isle.

Something happened to me at this point. My sheltered life of (primarily) love and acceptance was shattered by the harsh reality that people.....are cruel. There are those that truly WANT to hurt you and see you fail.

In my late teens and 20's I dealt with a lot of physical/emotional issues -- too many to get into, but the foundation of who I was, and who I am, never faltered.

Since that time, during senior year of high school, 1994, I have been "punched" in the gut more times than I can count, but you know what?

I'm still here.

As a woman in my early 30's I can finally say, with sincerity, I know what truly matters in life.

It doesn't matter what your weight it.

It doesn't matter what grades you got.

It doesn't matter how much money you have.

It doesn't matter the quantity of people in your life.

No, what matters is how much love you give out to the world and accept yourself.

I like to think I'm a pretty decent person. Sure, I've been pushed to the dark side on occasion and you know what? I instantly feel remorse and empathy for what I did.

That is truth. Not manipulation. Not attention seeking. Truth.

I have friends from kindergarten that I can call today and they'd be there for me.

I have friends who have stuck with me through the past 20+ years.

I have friends who are like sisters to me.

I have friends I would never talk bad about behind their back.

But mostly, I am my own friend.

I really like myself.

I have an abundance of love left inside that every day I crave to give out.

So even when I find myself lonely or knocked down, I know it is temporary. I know that I allow love into my life as much as I give it out and that there are people out there who will benefit from having a connection with me and vice versa.

The bullies in life can keep swinging at me all they want, because they'll never reach my heart ---- the core of who I am. Even if tears are shed out of exasperation of the cruelty of people, my inner core will never be broken. Swing away. You'll strike out.

So as I sit here, alone, in my office, heavy hearted and a bit worn, I can assure you I will brush this latest pain off and move forward.

A spirit full of love will never be crushed.

Saturday, October 12, 2013

Laughter IS The Best Medicine!!!

Because LAUGHTER is the BEST medicine....

Friday, October 11, 2013


I remember when I started Out & About Travel back in 1999. I was 23 years old and had limited experience. What I DID have was an absolute passion and drive to let the gay & lesbian community know about all the gay travel options available to them.
Out & About Travel was one of the first online gay travel agencies. Our web site was nothing fancy to look at but it was chock full of gay & lesbian travel information. It was a true labor of hard work and love.
Little by little our little agency started to grow in popularity. Before too long we had clients from around the word!
Fast forward to 2013 and we are know as “pioneers of the gay & lesbian travel industry.” 
Has it been easy? NO! But it sure has been worth it! :)
The competition continues to grow by, what I like to call, “the big guys” (Orbitz, Expedia, Travelocity), and quite honestly, we could NEVER compete against their advertising dollars, so yes, we have gotten lost in the shuffle a bit, but are proudly still “going strong” and more eager than ever to provide memorable travel experiences for the LGBT community!


  • Out & About Travel DOES NOT charge a service fee! It doesn’t cost anything extra to book through us. Your business = our survival and we could never thank you enough.
  • Out & About Travel provides a PRICE MATCH GUARANTEE! If you find something online — let us know! We can meet or beat the price. 
  • We provide all our clients with 24/7 agent access. No automated service here! You get our personal cell phone numbers so that you can reach us anytime prior or during your trip! gaytravelinformationFB1
  • Our sister site – GAY TRAVEL INFORMATION, is a leading source of information for the gay & lesbian community when looking for TRULY gay friendly businesses to support. We offer hotel, restaurant, business, event and product reviews. We only give our “stamp of approval” to the businesses that are genuine and provide a great product. It is a POSITIVE blog that only focuses on the GOOD, as we only highlight what we believe in and support! :)
  • Our other new site, WE ARE GAY FRIENDLY, is a directory listing LGBT friendly businesses throughout the world. It is under construction and should be in full function mode by the end of 2013.
  • We LOVE ski trips! We have been specializing in gay & lesbian ski trips since 1999! We can customize a package to any of the popular gay ski weeks around the world OR help plan a mountain vacation getaway. Be sure to visit our web site dedicated solely to this at GAY SKI TRIPS.
Out & About Travel recently launched a NEW web site, which can be found at
Our new site allows for online hotel bookings direct from our site! No need to go to “the big guys” — book your hotels right from!
We also have a new logo (i,e, “mascot”) — Our PRIDEFUL Squirrel, Warren (named after our hometown). 
The feedback on Warren has been faaaaaaaabulous! ;)


We are ALL over the Internet! Be sure to follow us and spread the word.
As always, we are here to help the LGBT community travel and experience the most gay welcoming destinations, businesses, events and products in the world!
Feel free to reach out to us at if you need help planning your next getaway, honeymoon or ski trip!
We are also always interested in collaborations with companies interested in reaching the LGBT community.
Thanks for your continued support & love!
Owner / Editor in Chief
Out & About Travel / Gay Travel Information / We Are Gay Friendly / Gay Ski Trips

Music Moves My Soul | Cassadee Pope | Michael Buble | Eli Young Band | Robin Thicke


Thursday, October 3, 2013

Tomboy Fashion - Lesbian Style

One of the best parts of FASHION....and for this Femme TOMBOY (emphasis on TOMBOY), I am loving the following "retro" inspired outfits. 

Tuesday, September 10, 2013

Nothing really to say, so I'll say it....

Eek. I kinda forgot what it is like to sit down and write - just to write! LOL! Especially now that I write for work. Maybe it's that I feel guilty, like --- I should be writing a review or something.


I don't know. It just doesn't feel the same lately. 

With that said....

IT IS FALL (okay, ALMOST fall)! :-D Where did summer go??? It feels like it was just yesterday that Jennifer and I were leaving for our May/June southern road trip and now here I am getting ready for our trip to Toronto...and its September. 

It was a good summer. Peaceful. Relaxing. 

I had some health issues, which I am still dealing with, but I like a challenge and HATE giving in to limitations, so I am dealing with them the best I could, setting up Dr appointments and trying to get to the bottom of this. 

What is it that I have been dealing with? To summarize, stomach pain - gastrointestinal issues. 

It's kinda crazy since I have been dealing with IBS since I was age 12 and then went through a hiatus of sorts between 30-35'ish. 

Then. I. Accidentally. Ate. A. @&^#&^&%$%$@&%#!!!! Jalapeno. 



It was a teeny, tiny piece in some guacamole dip. I had no idea it was there. 

This was back in May 2012 and I haven't been the same since. 

Because I have such a sensitive stomach, that tiny piece of HELL-O-PAIN-OH has reeked havoc that words cannot describe, but blek-fuck-crap-poop-sonofa-and grrr sorta summarize it. 

I get these INTENSE stomach pains and stomach burning that I wouldn't wish on anyone. 

Ulcer? Hpylori? Don't know yet. 

Luckily I only had TWO boughts of this since May 2012. One in October-Dec 2012 and now this latest one that came on in August (which I am currently fighting with antibiotics and strangely seem to help it!?)

I have been trying to avoid a gastro Dr for as long as possible for the simple fact that I'd rather fly naked than have an endoscopy or colonoscopy done (I am 37), BUT, I can't live on antibiotics, so I need to get to the ROOT of this problem and the only way they can figure that out is by "going in" --- waaaay in --- lol. Oyie. 

I literally had to cancel / reschedule 90% of my reviews this summer and I refuse to have that spill into the fall / winter as so many amazing things are planned!! 

Okay, so this is not the most exciting blog post, but it feels good to GET THIS ALL OUT. That is what writing is anyway --- therapy. It feels good to WRITE, right??? :))))

One POSITIVE of being home a bit more often is getting lots of extra work done!! 

We Are Gay Friendly is now up (, Out & About Travel new site is running (, Gay Travel Information keeps growing in leaps & bounds ( and even Gay Ski Trips has been updated ( 

All of this social networking has been paying off though as I am in the top 5% of most influential online social media businesses via


As for travel I have press trips planned to Toronto, Lake Placid-NY, Atlantic City, Mont Tremblant, Ludlow-VT, Stowe-VT, Stratton-VT, Whistler-British Columbia and (keeping fingers crossed) Tahiti and Iceland -- and this is all between now and February, so my health needs to be in PERFECT condition!! 

Oh my. 

Anyway - 

I was so happy to be able to wear a lightweight sweater the other day.

I love fall. Although as I write this they are calling for 100 degree weather 

Oh, New England!!

Current song obsessions: 

"Applause" - Lady Gaga (Because she is FKN crazy and I love her!)

Drunk Last Night - Eli Young Band (Because the guitar and lyrics are brilliant!)

Undercover - Selena Gomez (Because the song is super sexy!)

Roar - Katy Perry (Because the lyrics kick ass and, well, it's Katy Perry, c'!)

Stubborn Love - The Lumineers (Because song is just so great and little girl in video tugs at my heart strings!)

Mine Would Be You - Blake Shelton (Super romantic song which makes me all warm and fuzzy inside!)

AND, this special song for my love, my wife, who turns 39 years young on September 16th (really, 29...just sayin...)!

I love you!

 Until my next update........

ENJOY LIFE, no matter how tough the road is your on, it will lead you to where you are destined to be!!


Tuesday, August 27, 2013

Roar & Applause - Lady GaGa and Katy Perry Rock my World!


Wednesday, July 31, 2013

Tomboy Femme - Fashion for a Tomboy

Tomboy Femme Fashion. 

My closet. 
Nice and colorful! ;)

Tuesday, July 23, 2013

July 2013

Jen looking out at the gorgeous view from our room (#901) at Intercontinental Hotel Boston.

(Dodge Challanger - been shopping around for perfect one!)