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George Bailey: What is it you want, Mary? What do you want? You want the moon? Just say the word and I'll throw a lasso around it and pull it down. Hey. That's a pretty good idea. I'll give you the moon, Mary.
Mary: I'll take it. Then what?
George Bailey: Well, then you can swallow it, and it'll all dissolve, see... and the moonbeams would shoot out of your fingers and your toes and the ends of your hair... am I talking too much?
Saw this picture and had to post it. One of my most favorite movies ever, 'It's a Wonderful Life'.
Thursday, July 21, 2011
July 21, 2011
Kim took this picture of Dante and Marissa at Plymouth Beach yesterday. The water is crystal clear!
Beautiful Colt State Park - Bristol, RI
July 21, 2011
I've been living in Warren for about a year now and there has always been this....welll.....
MOTH mystery.
I could never figure out the source of where they were coming from and it always made my skin crawl.
I am happy to report that the problem has been solved.
I will leave it at that. Hehe.
I have found the source and it has been handled.
Succesfully.
Wednesday, July 20, 2011
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Sunday, July 3, 2011
Life is too short!!!!!
Okay, I just pulled into a McDonald's to grab a drink and there was a woman, dead(?), in the drive through lane. Laying right there on the ground, people around her, as the ambulance pulled up.
This hit me HARD! Life is too short to have issues with people! I mean, come on!!!!
I don't want to hate anyone or have anyone hate me!!!!!
For the love of God, I have never hated anyone, not even my father (who is worthy of hateful feelings).
I don't care what the issues are, people need to forgive, make amends, heal and LOVE each other!!!!
Life is way too short for hurtful, angry feelings.
I can't take this pain anymore. I just want peace and joy in my life!
I am the most forgiving, understanding person. If there is a misunderstanding, fix it everyone!
Don't wait another day! What I just saw slapped me into reality.
When I love someone, I love them FOREVER.
Please don't let mixed emotions, wrong perceptions, misunderstandings ruin the relationships in your life!
Step back and realize how lucky we are to be here this moment. There is no need for anger or pain.
If you have a misunderstanding, fix it! :( If someone means something to you, tell them!
Life is way too short.
God bless that woman.
-Des
This hit me HARD! Life is too short to have issues with people! I mean, come on!!!!
I don't want to hate anyone or have anyone hate me!!!!!
For the love of God, I have never hated anyone, not even my father (who is worthy of hateful feelings).
I don't care what the issues are, people need to forgive, make amends, heal and LOVE each other!!!!
Life is way too short for hurtful, angry feelings.
I can't take this pain anymore. I just want peace and joy in my life!
I am the most forgiving, understanding person. If there is a misunderstanding, fix it everyone!
Don't wait another day! What I just saw slapped me into reality.
When I love someone, I love them FOREVER.
Please don't let mixed emotions, wrong perceptions, misunderstandings ruin the relationships in your life!
Step back and realize how lucky we are to be here this moment. There is no need for anger or pain.
If you have a misunderstanding, fix it! :( If someone means something to you, tell them!
Life is way too short.
God bless that woman.
-Des
Smear Campagins
Another interesting article I found:
Re: False Accusations of Abuse
At some level she believes her own lies but only emotionally. If she thinks bad thoughts about you, then you become bad to her and you no longer have any positive attributes according to her. That's when she will go from your friend to your enemy and start lying about you to make you look bad. I'm convinced they all know very well they are lying. They know it will hurt you but it never stops them from doing it. Abuse is abuse, it doesn't matter if these women pretend to feel guilty or not, what they are doing is wrong and they know it, they know the difference between right and wrong, they are not insane.
Why do they do it?
Borderlines are black and white thinkers. They can love you more than anyone else, but once they switch and you become an object of your rage, they want to destroy you at any cost. They feel so terrible that they want to ruin your life and are not afraid to do whatever it takes to ruin your life, hence feeling terrible like they do.
It's heartbreaking to us non-bpd because we have loved the person with BPD so much and can't comprehend the reasoning behind their actions. Truth is, you never will be able to.
Imagine it this way - You wake up and your husband makes you breakfast. He later take you shopping and out for a fancy dinner. During dinner he suddenly tells you that he is moving to another state (with no emotions). He tells you that you are better off not going with him. You are shattered, leave the restaurant crying. He arrives home, gives you the silent treatment and goes to bed. Didn't see that coming, did you? This is a typical day for those in a relationship with someone with BPD. The next morning he acts as if nothing happens. He tells you that he loves you and heads to work. Feeling reassured you start to move forward. A few days later you find him packing his bags and heading out the door.
My advice is to always stay truthful to yourself and others and never be bullied into silence. Remember, misery loves company.
-Alan
"To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting". ~e.e. cummings, 1955
Never be bullied into silence. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself. ~Harvey Fierstein
Let the world know you as you are, not as you think you should be, because sooner or later, if you are posing, you will forget the pose, and then where are you? ~Fanny Brice
It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for something you are not. ~Andre Gide
Re: False Accusations of Abuse
At some level she believes her own lies but only emotionally. If she thinks bad thoughts about you, then you become bad to her and you no longer have any positive attributes according to her. That's when she will go from your friend to your enemy and start lying about you to make you look bad. I'm convinced they all know very well they are lying. They know it will hurt you but it never stops them from doing it. Abuse is abuse, it doesn't matter if these women pretend to feel guilty or not, what they are doing is wrong and they know it, they know the difference between right and wrong, they are not insane.
Why do they do it?
Borderlines are black and white thinkers. They can love you more than anyone else, but once they switch and you become an object of your rage, they want to destroy you at any cost. They feel so terrible that they want to ruin your life and are not afraid to do whatever it takes to ruin your life, hence feeling terrible like they do.
It's heartbreaking to us non-bpd because we have loved the person with BPD so much and can't comprehend the reasoning behind their actions. Truth is, you never will be able to.
Imagine it this way - You wake up and your husband makes you breakfast. He later take you shopping and out for a fancy dinner. During dinner he suddenly tells you that he is moving to another state (with no emotions). He tells you that you are better off not going with him. You are shattered, leave the restaurant crying. He arrives home, gives you the silent treatment and goes to bed. Didn't see that coming, did you? This is a typical day for those in a relationship with someone with BPD. The next morning he acts as if nothing happens. He tells you that he loves you and heads to work. Feeling reassured you start to move forward. A few days later you find him packing his bags and heading out the door.
My advice is to always stay truthful to yourself and others and never be bullied into silence. Remember, misery loves company.
-Alan
"To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting". ~e.e. cummings, 1955
Never be bullied into silence. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself. ~Harvey Fierstein
Let the world know you as you are, not as you think you should be, because sooner or later, if you are posing, you will forget the pose, and then where are you? ~Fanny Brice
It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for something you are not. ~Andre Gide
Happy 4th of July Eve!
Happy 4th of July Eve, everyone! Heading to Newport today and hopefully Bristol's fireworks tonight.
Don't let the thunderstorms scare ya! ;) They'll pass before you know it!
-Des
Friday, July 1, 2011
Interesting
A friend of mine just sent this to me. Fascinating.
Re: What is it you, as a Non Borderline, most want/need to understand about BPD?
« Reply #2 on: January 29, 2009, 05:54:11 PM »
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gabfwb wrote:
Is it typical for a bpd to become hard and fast friends with someone they barely know? In turn this new found friend is just as important to the bpd as someone they have known all their lives. Why is there no distinction? Do you agree that this could be very risky behavior?
A.J. Mahari wrote:
I don't know that I'd use the word "typical" but it is very common. It has to do with the whole issue of idealization and devaluation which comes about through the defense of splitting. If the person the BPD is closest to has been split to all-bad = devaluation then it is not uncommon that many with BPD will latch onto someone else quickly and idealize them as all-good. The reality of this more or less instant "connection" with someone else is that it won't last either because at some point that person will disappoint or disillusion the borderline and will be devalued also. There is no distinction, largely because the borderline is very young emotionally - like 2 or 3 years old really and they are (whether they know it or not) looking for a rescuing "mommy" figure (gender doesn't matter) and someone through whom they can feel they exist. To the borderline in this primitive neediness - anyone will do, as long as there is someone. It is also an avoidance of being alone and of being or feeling re-abandoned.
It is absolutely risky behaviour.
-Des
Re: What is it you, as a Non Borderline, most want/need to understand about BPD?
« Reply #2 on: January 29, 2009, 05:54:11 PM »
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gabfwb wrote:
Is it typical for a bpd to become hard and fast friends with someone they barely know? In turn this new found friend is just as important to the bpd as someone they have known all their lives. Why is there no distinction? Do you agree that this could be very risky behavior?
A.J. Mahari wrote:
I don't know that I'd use the word "typical" but it is very common. It has to do with the whole issue of idealization and devaluation which comes about through the defense of splitting. If the person the BPD is closest to has been split to all-bad = devaluation then it is not uncommon that many with BPD will latch onto someone else quickly and idealize them as all-good. The reality of this more or less instant "connection" with someone else is that it won't last either because at some point that person will disappoint or disillusion the borderline and will be devalued also. There is no distinction, largely because the borderline is very young emotionally - like 2 or 3 years old really and they are (whether they know it or not) looking for a rescuing "mommy" figure (gender doesn't matter) and someone through whom they can feel they exist. To the borderline in this primitive neediness - anyone will do, as long as there is someone. It is also an avoidance of being alone and of being or feeling re-abandoned.
It is absolutely risky behaviour.
-Des
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