Smear Campagins

Another interesting article I found:

Re: False Accusations of Abuse
At some level she believes her own lies but only emotionally. If she thinks bad thoughts about you, then you become bad to her and you no longer have any positive attributes according to her. That's when she will go from your friend to your enemy and start lying about you to make you look bad. I'm convinced they all know very well they are lying. They know it will hurt you but it never stops them from doing it. Abuse is abuse, it doesn't matter if these women pretend to feel guilty or not, what they are doing is wrong and they know it, they know the difference between right and wrong, they are not insane.
 
Why do they do it?
Borderlines are black and white thinkers. They can love you more than anyone else, but once they switch and you become an object of your rage, they want to destroy you at any cost. They feel so terrible that they want to ruin your life and are not afraid to do whatever it takes to ruin your life, hence feeling terrible like they do.

It's heartbreaking to us non-bpd because we have loved the person with BPD so much and can't comprehend the reasoning behind their actions. Truth is, you never will be able to.

Imagine it this way - You wake up and your husband makes you breakfast. He later take you shopping and out for a fancy dinner. During dinner he suddenly tells you that he is moving to another state (with no emotions). He tells you that you are better off not going with him. You are shattered, leave the restaurant crying. He arrives home, gives you the silent treatment and goes to bed. Didn't see that coming, did you? This is a typical day for those in a relationship with someone with BPD. The next morning he acts as if nothing happens. He tells you that he loves you and heads to work. Feeling reassured you start to move forward. A few days later you find him packing his bags and heading out the door.

My advice is to always stay truthful to yourself and others and never be bullied into silence. Remember, misery loves company.

-Alan


"To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting". ~e.e. cummings, 1955



Never be bullied into silence. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself. ~Harvey Fierstein



Let the world know you as you are, not as you think you should be, because sooner or later, if you are posing, you will forget the pose, and then where are you? ~Fanny Brice



It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for something you are not. ~Andre Gide