New Favorite Songs....

Straight Girls

So the other day I was listening to a song I wrote back in 2006 called 'Straight Girls'. Oh my God. I have to laugh. I forgot how much I love that song and how, from the heart, it came. I remember sitting down in my office when I lived in Providence, headphones on -- guitar strapped on -- clicking record and spilling out words that were inside me.

Here is what came out:

Please tell me, why I always fall in love with the straight girls?

Straight girls will only break my heart.

But I keep falling for those straight girls,

because straight girls are always so damn hot.

See, I'm not in to that "Kevin Bacon" look....

Tucked in shirts and flannel NEVER make me look.

And I don't care if a girl drives a jeep....

All that adds up to me is one big "BLEEPIN! BLEEP!"

I'm into wavy hair and flowered skirts....

A little blush on her cheeks could never, ever hurt.

I like a girl that smells just like "ocean mist"....

A girl that giggles a little when we kiss.

So, please tell me why I always fall in love with the straight girls (WHY?)

Straight girls will only break my heart (ALWAYS!)

But I keep falling for those straight girls....

Because straight girls are always so damn hot.

See, I'm not into girls who wear fanny packs....!!

What the hell are they thinking, I mean c'mon now? What's up with that??

And why do lesbian couples look the same?

Whose silly joke is that, tell me whose to blame?

I like a girl with meat on her bones.

I like a girl who cuddles when we're home.

I like a girl who makes me laugh until it hurts.

Yeah, I'm just a girl that likes a girl who wears a skirt.

So, please tell me why I always fall in love with the straight girls (WHYYYYY?)

Straight girl.....you'll only break my heart (YES YOU WILL!)

But I'll keep falling for those straight girls (YOU KNOW WHY?)

Because straight girls are always so damn hot.....

Straight girls are always so damn hot...(ONE MORE TIME)

Straight girls.....are always so damn hot.

This song is SO telling how the type lesbian I am. The tomboy lesbian in me that loves the femme in my partners.

No, my partner doesn't have to wear "skirts" or makeup.......but that softness has always been such a turn on.

When I wrote this song I had no idea the women that would come into my life.

I feel very blessed to have found partners that indulge the tomboy in me and embrace my femme side as well.

We all have to listen to the voice inside that tells us exactly what we are attracted to. Life is too short to be unhappy!! I tried dating girls that were more "boyish" and I just never felt any sort of chemistry with them. They were lovely women......AWESOME women....and I am sure they have found their lovely "femmes" to compliment their style as well! ;) It just wasn't me.....I wanted the same!

ANYWAY.....

I am feeling inspired to write new music but I just don't have the time.

I will have to just hit record one day and see what comes out because the truth is always inside......

And to all you straight girls that spoke to my inner tomboy and inspired that song........ thanks! ;-)

XOXO

Chatham Bars Inn - April 1, 2012

Song of the moment....

You Can't Fake Chemistry

I've been reading a lot of Facebook status updates about being in love and chemistry and you can hear almost that ache, that unbelievable ache of love. THAT type love that is undeniably mutual.

Undeniably mutual love and chemistry is the best feeling in the world and is an absolute must to have a long term, sustainable relationship. It is in the way the person looks, smiles and touches you. It is in the tone of their voice when they speak to you. The way they act around you. The way they try to impress you. The way your response speaks and matters to them.

This is a topic I could write infinitely on and something I will always feel strong about.

They is no greater "drug", energy boost, motivator, source of happiness than when you have found mutual love and chemistry with someone. Romance and friendship mixed into one.

I saw this photo and it just spoke to me. More like, screamed to me...lol. It is absolutely beautiful.

You can tell when someone looks at you and is attracted to you so much it is impossible to almost express. You can tell when a person kisses you that they are trying to make you feel their love.

If you have never experienced this, than you are missing out.

Someone on Facebook recently posted:


"I JUST HAVE ONE THING TO SAY: EVER KISS SOMEONE SO HARD....NO, NOT HARD, BUT INTENSE....ELECTRIC. EVER KISS SOMEONE SO ELECTRIC, YOU FEEL LIKE YOUR SKIN PEELS OFF AND FLOATS AWAY? AND THEN YOU LOOK INTO HER EYES AND YOU CAN SEE EVERY THOUGHT YOU EVER HAD LOOKING BACK AT YOU?

YEPPPP. MY LIFE IS AS WONDERFUL AS IT APPEARS TO BE ON FACEBOOK. =D"


One of my favorite quotes will forever be: "The greatest thing you will ever learn is just to love and be loved in return."

Go be romantic, everyone.....git.....go on now....xo.

How are you?

So this morning I woke up with THIS on my mind....

I once told someone very special that even though things may APPEAR to be okay on the outside, things could be completely different on the inside. The only way to know is to ask. I mean, really ask.

How many times have we approached someone we KNOW is not doing well, only to receive the "I'm fine" response? Listen to your gut. Never give up on someone.

Never judge a book by its cover is so true.

Who appears to be so happy can be so broken and who appears to be broken could be the strongest person you ever met.

So many opportunities in life are passed by by simply not ASKING the questions we long to know the answers to....in the right way.

Learn to know the difference between "I'm fine!" and "I'm TRULY fine."

Read the messages BETWEEN the words.

Trust your gut.

Trust your intuition.

Never give up on someone. Never.

Lez Be Honest - Take 3!

I haven't written about the Femme Tomboy thing in awhile, so figured I'd share some random thoughts. Speaking of which, this blog can now be accessed by simply typing: http://www.femmetomboy.com/. Yay! :D

 I've been thinking about my identity as a femme tomboy. I know I have posted things in the past about more of my feminine traits (I like to decorate, cook, shop, am very emotional etc.,) but now let's focus on more of the masculine parts that define my identity and what I am attracted to.
For as feminine a tomboy as I am, I am still very much in touch with the BOY part of that word.

Makeup, fancy shoes, lingerie and crossing of the legs still make me week in the knees.

 I love the girly side of a girl because even though I am emotionally feminine I just don't have "those ways" that most women have. Make sense? The whole crossing of the legs, wearing hair longer, putting makeup on a regular basis, being able to wear a dress or skirt or feminine lingerie. Just having that NATURAL feminine way.


The tomBOY in me seeks out these qualities in my partner. NOT that my partner isn't as sexy in ripped jeans and a sweatshirt. God, no. It's just what I find attractive and a turn on.
Then again a simple look in the eyes is a turn on to me too! ;)
My point? I am very much in touch with the "boy" part of my personality and love when that part connects with the "girl" part of my partner's personality. I use words like "boy" and "girl" because they sound softer.

Now here is the thing. Really ask yourself -- what are YOU TRULY attracted to?


For the purpose of this blog I will use women references.


Are you attracted to longer hair on a woman?


Are you attracted to makeup on a woman?


Are you attracted to jewelry on a woman?


Are you attracted to perfume on a woman?


Think of your celebrity crushes. Truly think about it.


Are you more attracted to someone like "Ty" from the group Girlyman or someone like (because my fiance is a fan and I can't think of anyone else) Gillian Anderson from X-Files?


Are you more a Xena Worrier Princess lover or Ellen Degeneres?

 
Seriously. Stop and think about it. This is your life. You need to know these things.


Blond hair? Brown hair?


Blue eyes? Brown eyes?


When you see (or have seen) a person you are attracted to in your life what "stereotype" do they fall under? Don't say, "I don't have one" -- because we all do.


Think about the person you have been most attracted to in your life.


What was it about them that attracted you?

 What was it about their appearance? Personality?

 
Who turned you on the most? REALLY TURNED YOU ON???


Who fit that part of your "chemical sexual" self best?


Be honest. Don't lie.....especially not to yourself.


I was in several relationships before I found a person that "I" was truly their type, as they were mine and the chemistry was off the charts.


There is NO denying the chemistry when type A.) meets type B.) and the two mesh to = type C.)


Whatever that means!? LOL!?!


Even now, with my fiance, I feel that I am her type, as she is mine, and I don't think we'd be where we are today if she wasn't.


I feel VERY STRONGLY about this.

Having been on both sides of the fence (friendship love and romantic love), I know I NEVER, EVER want to go back to just a friendship love.

I want my partner to love, truly LOVE and be turned on by and attracted to my "boyish ways" as I am to her "girlish ways".......not because "I" like certain things but because we both equally like certain things, if that make sense. If someone does something for someone even if they aren't a fan of it, the other person will pick up on it and the truth will come out in the end, as it always does. It is so much better to be open and honest up front.


I don't want to be with someone that looks at Kate Winslet and gets aroused or Madonna (sorry, these are all that are coming to my mind...lol). I want to be with someone that looks at someone like Ty, Ellen or Amy Ray and gets weak in the knees (again, sorry, can't think of any good tomboy lesbians).


I wish I could go up to every couple and ask: "What is it that truly, TRULY turns you on about the other person?" ---- and if there is a lull or some random generic answer ---- I'd look at the other person and say, "Dude, this isn't the one for you."


So many people confuse lust for love or friendship for love because we are all so afraid of being alone.


I see so many unhappy couples who waste years of their lives with someone only to be left in the long run because there was "something lacking."


Sigh.


Don't let that happen to you.


Find the one that makes your heart beat out of its chest, your mouth go dry, your sexual energy skyrocket AND treats you right, respects you, makes you laugh and is your # 1 fan.


Even though Jen has only been in my life 6 months, I feel I have found all this with her, that is why I asked her to be my wife.


And if you are reading this and have a partner that truly (again, TRULY) isn't your type.....stop playing with their emotions. Stop lying to them. Stop lying to yourself. Life is precious and way too short for something like that.



Find THE ONE meant for you.


However long it takes.


That is all! :-)

Random winter 2012 photos

ROFL, LOL and LMAO!!!

Happy Birthday Gay Travel Information!

Happy Birthday Gay Travel Information!

I started Gay Travel Information (http://www.gaytravelinformation.com/) one year ago. My first review was March 16, 2011 at Hotel Providence.


Reflecting on this past year I am absolutely amazed at the opportunities http://www.gaytravelinformation.com/ has provided me.



As the owner of Out & About Travel (http://www.gaytravelpros.com/) I decided to start Gay Travel Information as a way to review gay & lesbian friendly accommodations. My hotel reviews suddenly expanded to include restaurants, special events, theatre and businesses. As of today I have done close to 100 reviews!



People ask how I get such amazing opportunities and say things like "sign me up", the thing is, it has been a long hard road to get to where I am! :-)



I started Out & About Travel in 1999 at the age of 23. I was in debt. Had no extra cash for advertising and very little computer experience. What I DID have was genuine love, passion and drive for all things TRAVEL related. I had worked at several travel agencies including a very well respected gay travel agency in Boston, MA called Urban Travel. These jobs provided me with fantastic experience.



It was in early 1999 when I had mentioned to my boss, Ed, that I wanted to open my own agency someday. I can still see his smug smile and hear his laugh as he called out to the man in the room next to us. Mocking me he said, "John, she wants to start her OWN business!" He rolled his eyes and shook his head. I remember my blood boiling and, after a very honest letter to Ed about what I though of him, I quit the next day! ;)






This was in April 1999. Out & About Travel was born in August 1999. I will be celebrating 13 years as (cough cough) OWNER this August.

"I" am Out & About Travel. I design it's web sites (http://www.gaytravelpros.com/, http://www.gayskiweeks.com/, http://www.gayskitrips.com/, http://www.gaytravelinformation.com/ and http://www.wearegayfriendly.com/), I price out client travel requests, I send out email blasts, I handle the budgiting and scheduling of tasks.....pretty much anything you can think of.

Out & About Travel has survived 9/11. Out & About Travel has survived the creations of Orbitz, Travelocity and Expedia and Out & About Travel has survived the recession.



We have clients from around the world. Our web site, http://www.gaytravelpros.com/, receives over 1 million unique hits per year and we have top placement on google for man search terms such as: gay travel agency and gay travel agent --- free of charge, totally organic, from years of hard work.

This is the only reason I was able to start Gay Travel Information and set up the reviews I have been so blessed with to receive. Out & About Travel is a respected, well recognized name.


When I contact a business to do a review, they are (usually) quite honored to have Out & About Travel spotlight them.

It is truly humbling.



With travel getting more and more difficult to book due to people "shopping online" and booking direct with tour companies (which, by the way, OUCH......stop that....lol....be kind to us travel agents.....especially those like myself who don't charge a service fee and have a price match guarantee....no reason to book direct), I am grateful to the start of this 2nd business!

 Gay Travel Information is still at it's beginning stages. I am excited to think what this year and years to come will have in store.


Here is a listing (no particular order) of reviews I have done this year:

• Hotel du Glace (The Ice Hotel) - Quebec, Canada -- Got engaged here! ;)

• The Salem Cross Inn Restaurant & Tavern - West Brookfield, MA (Getting married here!!)

• Mill's Tavern - Providence, RI

• XV Beacon - Boston, MA

• The Francis Malbone House - Newport, RI

• Green Land Cafe - Salem, MA

• Not Your Average Joe's - Seekonk, MA

• Lola's Tequila Bar & Cantina - Providence, RI

• Whisky Republic - Providence, RI

• L' Hotel du Capitole - Quebec City, Quebec - Canada

• Chateau Frontenac - Quebec City, Quebec - Canada

• Cook & Brown Public House - Providence, RI

• Capt's Waterfront Steakhouse & Seafood Grill - Salem, MA

• Cote' Nord - Mont Tremblant, Quebec - Canada

• Creperie Catherine - Mont Tremblant, Quebec - Canada

• Mont Tremblant Ziplining Adventure - Quebec - Canada

• Blood Rose Rising (play) - Sommerville, MA

• NYLO Hotel - Warwick, RI

• Gabriel's - Provincetown, MA

• The Kearsarge Inn - North Conway, NH

• Gas Lamp Grille - Newport, RI

• Darryl's Corner Bar & Kitchen - Boston, MA

• Stoddard's Fine Food & Spirits - Boston, MA

• Inn at St. Botolph - Boston, MA

• The Atlantic Grille - Martha's Vineyard

• Smoke'N'Bones BBQ - Martha's Vineyard

• George's of Galilee - Galilee, RI

• Julian's - Providence, RI

• Yard House - Dedham, MA

• Jasper White's Summer Shack - Dedham, MA

• Melting Pot - Providence, RI

• Camden Harbor Inn - Camden, ME

• Spruce Point Inn - Bar Harbor, ME

• Paragon - Providence, RI

• Victoria Station - Salem, MA

• Winter Rendezvous / Stowe Gay Ski Week - Stowe, VT

• Stoweflake Resort & Spa - Stowe, VT

• Caffe Dolce Vita - Providence, RI

• Dolce Villa - Providence, RI

• Smoke Lounge - Providence, RI

• Jillian's / Lucky Strike Lanes - Boston, MA

• Spooky World's Fear at Fenway - Boston, MA

• Field of Screams - West Greenwich, RI

• King's Bowling, Lounge & Sports Bar - Dedham, MA

• Kiwassa Lake B&B - Saranac Lake, NY

• Tail O' The Pup BBQ - Ray Brook, NY

• Church Landing at Mills Falls - Meredeth, NH

• Lago Restaurant - Meredeth, NH

• The Common Man Inn & Spa - Plymouth, NH

• The Boiler Room Restaurant - Plymouth, NH

• Mediterraneo Caffe - Providence, RI

• Amici Bar & Grille - Providence, RI

• The Paddock Restaurant - Hyannis, MA

• Harbor Village - Hyannis, MA

• Harbor Front Resort - Martha's Vineyard

• Legal C Bar - Dedham, MA

• Meeting Street Cafe - Providence, RI

• The Friendly Toast - Boston, MA

• Downcity - Providence, RI

• LJ's BBQ - Pawtucket, RI

• Beaconlight Guesthouse - Provincetown, MA

• Ciro & Sal's Italian Restaurant - Provincetown, MA

• The Sunnyside Daytime Dining - Warren, RI

• Piecasso Pizzeria & Lounge - Stowe, VT

• Stowe Cabins in the Woods - Stowe, VT

• Cider House BBQ & Pub - Waterbury, VT

• The Salem Inn - Salem, MA

• Liberty Elm Diner - Providence, RI

• Ale House Inn - Portsmouth, NH

• The Friendly Toast - Portsmouth, NH

• Hotel Providence - Providence, RI

• Pane E Vino - Providence, RI
  

To say I am proud of this accomplishment is an understatement.



To say I am excited about future possibilities is an understatement.



To say I am grateful to have a partner that appreciates these adventures as much as I do is an understatement.



I love being able to share reviews with the public and appreciate any feedback I receive. It is truly about finding gay friendly places that the LGBT community will feel comfortable visiting.


I love my job.

I love my life.


Determination pays off