The Femme Tomboy: May 2012

Friday, May 25, 2012

Happy Birthday to Me!

Where I'll be celebrating THIS birthday

Tuesday, May 22, 2012

4th of July White Trash Party 2012!

Des & Jen's Annual 4th of July "White Trash" Party!

July 1, 2012

4pm-when the rooster crows

Where: Westport, MA

Tuesday, May 15, 2012

So I haven't sat and wrote a new blog in awhile. Maybe because I actually write for a living now....so I feel guilty if I write for pleasure as I should always being writing one review or another...nonetheless....

I recently saw a photo of Rachael Maddow and I have decided she is the FIRST LESBIAN, the first TOMBOY LESBIAN I would ever want to be like (style wise). I usually look at men's fashion (gay men - lol) because it is (slightly) feminine, but Rachael has got this "soft tomboy" look down perfectly. There is nothing ROUGH or BUTCH about her (in my opinion). She is just a TOMBOY.

I just love her style....especially the sneakers! ;)

The sneakers and books are just....so damn cool! LOL!

Love the glasses and shirt!

Funky blue glasses with soft pink T-shirt. Rachael at home with her "femme" partner of over 10+ years.

Awesome style!!

See, when I think of BUTCH I think of Gina Gershon's character in Bound.

And I'm sorry, but "EWW" is the first thing that comes to mind. Just not my "thang" ya know? I am sure there are plenty of women that drool over that character. Just not me.

I am by far a tomboy femme and I appreciate the femme aspect in women for sure. I don't find women that dress like my brother attractive (my brother is super macho...hmm...sorta dresses like Gina Gershon's character....lol).

I love when butch women have soft hearts and are extremely sweet, because it doesn't matter how short your damn hair is or the style clothes you wear, you still have a feminine way about you. I respect these type butch women. Although I have never been attracted to one in a physical aspect, I do respect them when they are not afraid to show their soft side.

I have just always been attracted to the feminine side of things. Whether it be a straight guy who is soft and sweet. A butch woman with a kind heart and warm smile or a femme woman who may know more about cars than I do. If the femme out weighs the masculine, that is all that matters.

I don't know what it is about me that doesn't find masculine qualities attractive, but I just don't and by masculine qualities I mean..... truck driving, cigar smoking, barb-wired tattoo wearing, un-emotional types.

I never understood my straight (or lesbian) friends who fell for the guys (butch women) who sit in the corner, pouting, hat backwards, jeans hanging off their ass -- always looking moody -- pissed off about something. I guess I am missing something.

If I was a straight woman I would take the man comfortable in a pink shirt, flashy blue sneakers, into gardening, writing poetry and unashamed to cry any day! ;-D

And as a lesbian woman --- I feel the same. As a tomboy lesbian woman that is.

Maybe I am using labels? I don't think so. I just think it is preference.

I have just always preferred to be with a woman that looks at women like Rachel Maddow and "swoons" --- not someone that looks at Kate Winslet or Katy Perry and "swoons", if that makes sense??? If that is the case, you do not belong with me. We can go swoon over femmes together.

Sometimes I want to re-join therapy just to delve deeper into this topic because it fascinates me so much and I would love an unbiased opinion.

It is critical that I have that "yin to my yang" balance in a relationship, which I am happy to report, I do! :) My fiance definitely is the yin to my yang...lol and, quite honestly, all my ex's have been.

Here is a test.

This link shows the top 15 "hottest butches" - http://www.afterellen.com/people/2007/7/topbutches (sorry, but Rachel Maddow should've been on this list for sure)

and

This link shows the top 10 "hottest femmes" - http://femmeonamission.com/2011/07/28/10-famous-femme-lesbians-on-coming-out/

Here is another list of femmes: http://guyism.com/celebrities/sexiest-celebrity-lesbians.html

If you are a lesbian woman reading this right now, what do you find most attractive? Honestly?

I find this fascinating.

Simply fascinating.

But not as fascinating as Rachael Maddow's sneakers! ;)

Thursday, May 10, 2012

Road Trip 2012

May 26-June 10, 2012

2012 ROAD TRIP ITINERARY (100% of this trip, except for gas, is "hosted" as I will be doing reviews on each of the hotels we stay at, restaurants we dine at and attractions we visit)